Guests: 230
My 81st SM-Fetish Party has come and gone and it was a good one again.
Nice and busy, without any serious incidents.
Our DJ's were apparently very successful and valued by the crowd, because I
received many compliments on Friday.
Personally I wasn’t really at ease Friday night, even though I enjoyed a
wonderful soft SM play, which I will not forget easily.
It’s probably due to the fact that haven’t been feeling to comfortable in my own
skin all week long, but it was just not my kind of party.
Something that struck me was the large number of new faces.
There were so many new people I even said to myself: that’s strange I hardly
know anybody.
In a way that’s a good thing in itself.
I have to get something off my chest.
I noticed things are going down hill with the required dress code lately.
You are making things difficult for me this way.
On the one hand I don’t want to ruin people's nights by denying then access due
to their choice of clothing.
On the other hand I want people to participate in creating the correct
atmosphere for a Fetish Party.
We’re not that difficult, especially not to people who are not yet settled in
the world of seeing and being seen, because that’s what a Fetish Party basically
is about.
However, when I saw people who have come for years walking around outfits made
of regular fabrics in all sorts of different colours I seriously wonder if
people are trying to pull my leg.
I do understand that the term dress code is a very difficult term and a notion
open to interpretation.
This discussion will always exist and will never be won or lost, but it
should still be had.
Especially true SM players and in particular dominant men, usually have trouble
keeping them to the dress code.
People have told me so many reasons for wearing a faded black shirt or dark
jeans, which they find acceptable.
They say leather or rubber outfits are too warm to play in, they didn’t have any
other outfits in their cupboards, or they believe their dominance does not
depend on their choice of clothing, etc. etc.
I believe that to be complete nonsense.
No one can say I’m not dominant, but I do try to look good and exciting and
that way contribute to the atmosphere at my party.
Even I often feel very warm in my leather outfits and believe me gentlemen
walking on high heels all evening and night is very exhausting and painful as
well.
All people present make a Fetish Party what it is and as far as I’m concerned
beautiful and sexy outfits in accordance with the party’s theme are an integral
part as well.
Everybody who reads this is warned.
I’ve notified everyone on more than one occasion and from now on I’m going to be
strict.
On my website is a page with general information about my SM-Fetish Party and
listed there you can find what outfits you can and can’t wear. The URL is:
www.mrs-manita.com/english/party_eng.htm
Like I wrote earlier, I shared a wonderful play with Marianne.
Aside from a very attractive lady and a wonderful and cherished friend she is
also a wonderful play toy.
Everyone who knows me – slowly that number of people is increasing – know I’m a
sadist with a preference for rough and mean whipping sessions and extreme play.
What not many know is that I also like to play with people who ‘cannot tolerate
much’ according to the scene.
As if the level of pain and discomfort are an indication of the quality of the
play session.
BDSM is not a competition, but an expression of feeling between two or more
people who want and can experience it in their own way.
How that happens – provided it happens in a safe, sane and consensual manner –
is totally unimportant.
Playing with sensitive people is very difficult and takes a lot out of the
empathy and concentration of the dominant.
However, the feeling your play partner gives you when they – despite their fear
and shyness – share in your power and completely surrender to you is
indescribable.
I shared this with Marianne on Friday and it wasn’t the first time and hopefully
not the last time either.
Pornfreaks de Luxe performed the show on Friday.
It was the first time I used their services and to be honest the show was a bit
disappointing.
I expected more from these professional artists than what they showed us last
Friday.
Pornfreaks de Luxe agreed that they would get a second chance.
At the moment I don’t know when they will get it.
Next month I don’t have to worry about the show, because Mistress Brigitte More from Exclusive Erotic Entertainment will come and she is an authority in the show business in the Netherlands and her shows are a guaranteed success.
For the clothing stand I fell back on Vell
Erotic leather lingerie and party wear, my old reliable partner.
For me Vell means playing it safe, because they have good-quality merchandise
and it’s also beautiful and very affordable.
Next to that they are also very sweet people who I love to have around every
single time.
I don’t even remember how many times they helped me out over the last couple of
years.
I have no idea if their business was good, because I haven’t been able to talk
to them due to my other activities.
Love,
Mistress Manita
Amsterdam, 16-11-2008